- — priorities over the next 2-10Y horizon
- Career[a] longevity till 70, probably on wall st, not in Singapore or West Coast. A related keyword is “relevance” to the geek economy.
- On Wall St, I continue to keep a keen focus on robust technologies like core Java, cpp, SQL, sockets, core threading, common data structures. Outside Wall st, jxee (and possibly web stacks) offers the best market depth and demand.
- Compared to Wall St, West coast is possibly low priority for now as I don’t see long term visibility.
- my wellness — Need to guard against PIP-hell, trapped… A “stability factor” arguably more impactful than GC, housing, schooling… One of the key signs of wellness is weight and calorie count.
- boy’s education — I don’t know if U.S. system is better for him
- GC — a G5 priority in my current plan, primarily on the back of the longevity factor.
- preparing for war at new job — short-term, immediate but actionable.
- — 2nd tier
- increase precious time with grand parents in my 3rd U.S. era — fly business class to NY.
- more passive income to reduce the cash flow stress
- Saving up for U.S. housing — not much I can do now.
- I now have a deep desire but limited hope to keep up my 细水长流 motivation for coding drill and QQ learning. Burning pleasure; self-esteem; satisfaction; absorbency.
- wife’s and daughter’s life-chances in U.S. — important but not much I can do now
- leaving a good impression with MS manager
[a] I didn’t say “income”. I think more important to me is my marketability (+ relevance, in-demand ..). Career longevity is the basis of entire family’s well-being for 15Y until kids start working.
Salary — is kinda secondary because the room for improvement is negligible in my biased mental picture.
See also  ##4 qualities I admire in%%peers #!!status and
 ##envy Them constantly; !!celebrat`family,achievements..
Once a while in a young person’s life she(he) find herself (rather than her life) despicable in every way —
- body image
- team sports, not part of any “gang”
- ….When we grow older we have some of these same “whiplashes” + some new whiplashes, which we use to beat ourselves up:
- home location, home size, school district
- personal investments including properties
- monthly saving rate
- plenty of life-chances available to me throughout my life
I think in such a situation we desperately need concrete, tangible evidence of personal achievement (not necessarily visible to other people). Here are some evidence to congratulate myself and defend myself against the whipping:
- wife and kids — see 
- SGP citizenship — see 
- education credentials — see 
- personal finance — see 
- profession — see the first list in 
- knowledge + experience about diet and wellness — see 
- introspective or expressive writing and blogging — as a versatile coping, self-improvement, self-discovery device
- English proficiency — I struggled for years and now I’m able to use English for expressive writing — something unimaginable in my teenage years.
Title is lousy. No point improving it.
I /aced / killed / thrived at/ many games. Most visible and most profitable game in this list is tech IV, including
- 1a) branching out to c# and c++
- 1b) quant self-study to impress many technology interviewers
The above topic already has many many posts in this blog. Below are other games I excelled in:
- excellent grades up to college Year 1
- paid off multiple rental properties + my own home, by age 43. All in good locations with reliable rental demand.
- Earned MSFM with flying colors at age 42 — sustained focus, self mastery
Some domains are not really competitive “games” but still I excelled visibly:
- no belly (as Nick pointed out); weight loss in late 2018, along with pull-up. Jogging habit.
- keeping burn rate very low, and achieving some form of ffree around age 30 and again at 43
It’s instructive to recognize the pattern.
- I think in each game, I had some talent, and a long-term consistent effort.
- External positive feedback is far from powerful , immediate or frequent, so internal motivation is crucial.
- All are individual games, not team games. Note promotion is not my game and I don’t need to kill this game to be comfortable and satisfied.