“Bad things happen to all of us. What counts is how we react to it.” — first heard from a PWM contractor (Indian).
I don’t want a big tabular analysis… Perhaps just focus on how fast I regained strength. Resilience and robust are big words in my vocabulary. Self-esteem is important too, but optimism is more important.
- “C” is my self-rating of My reactions to PIP —- traumatized 惊弓之鸟. too long-lasting, too personal, too ruminative. It /cast too long a shadow/ over my long-term career planning and job choices.
- 🙂 However, I am always courageous and resilient to take up the challenge right after the PIP, and focus on work.
- ——- all other reactions are more calm, resilient or even robust ——-
- “B ” my reaction to high-flier classmates —- I continue to fight the irrational , illogical reaction. The harm is much light than PIP reaction.
- “BBB ” My reaction to U.S. and Singapore immigration issues —- a little drawn out. I worried for quite a long time, proportional to the level of complexity. But I was calm and focused on the problem.
- “BBB ” My reaction to the trespass —- severe for the first few days but I managed to shrug it off after lots of research online.
- “BB ” My reaction to kids’ academic difficulties, weight problem, —- a bit Pessimistic, but much lighter in comparison to PIP. I managed to detach myself emotionally and grow my resilience.
- “AAA ” My reaction to investment foes —- shows a sign of strength. Resilience. I shrugged it off most of the time and focused on work.
- “A ” My reaction to rejections by women —- not robust not positive. I kinda acknowledged that I have a high standard and I wasn’t so attractive on the ‘market’. I think that was fairly realistic.
- “BBB+”My reaction to the underwhelming quant prospect, my poor ROI —- realistic and negative. I didn’t complain for long. I accepted it and put it aside.
- “AA ” My reaction to my c# ROI —- calm. I remain confident about my c#.
- “AAA ” my reaction to the perceived gap behind coding test pros. I renew my effort without over-thinking
“AAA ” my reaction to contract terminations at Citi —- positive. I wasted no time. No self-pity.
- “AAA+”My reactions to repeated interview rejections — always robust and positive. I get right back on the horse after I fall.