Every week, I actually make more progress than my fellow daddies with kids and commute etc. However, Once a while, in retrospect I would fall apart and belittle and cast doubt on my progress and point out the (unfortunately invisible) long-term effect.
Putting on a critical thinker’s hat, I feel that for most guys in my situation, it’s no mean achievements to maintain current condition and make small progress, with invisible long-term effect. Anything more is asking too much, and requires luck, talent, determination, contexx etc.
- –ranked by …? I want to highlight the unsung heroes…
- cholesterol, dental, belly and weight? maintaining is no mean achievement
- loving relationship with wife? maintained, even strengthened
- relationship with in-laws? improved, as visible long term progress. More important — relationship with my own parents maintained
- boy’s renzi and Chinese reading? improved slightly. Not really long term visible progress but at least he maintained
- physical flexibility? maintained .. yes! Improvement? yes some, with huge effort
- stamina? maintained … no mean achievement
- financial domain knowledge? I expanded to FX; market data; low-latency equity; FIX exchange trading…. Visible progress but shallow.
- algo and coding test performance?
- bonding with kids? constantly building, deepening… Not by default, but by effort.
- c++/c# conquered as a visible long term progress. Probably more important — java skill level maintained.
- financial assets (mostly holding well against inflation)? yes visible progress but I tend to belittle it. Building this portfolio actually required persistent effort, years of analysis, experiments, ..